Defensive devaluation is a protective device that makes love bad, trust unimportant and people "no darn good any way". People who have been deeply hurt in their relationships will often devalue love so it doesn't hurt so much. And they often become resigned to never loving again.

Henry Cloud
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Defensive devaluation is a protective device that makes love bad, trust unimportant and people "no darn good any way". People who have been deeply hurt in their relationships will often devalue love so it doesn't hurt so much. And they often become resigned to never loving again. This quote is attributed to Dr.

Abraham Maslow, the psychologist who studied the hierarchy of needs for humans. At the lowest level of Maslow's hierarchy are biological needs (survival instinct, hunger, thirst, sleep). Next are safety needs (security, shelter, clothing).

Then comes respect for self and others (love, acceptance). Next comes esteem (self-esteem). Finally there is self-actualization (being one's highest potential).

Source: Safe People: How To Find Relationships That Are Good For You And Avoid Those That Arent

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